I am glad that you are not trying to bully anyone. That is the first thing said here that gives me hope that an agreement can be achieved of some sort. Then the issue of just declaring IC hunts void should be dropped by virtue of some of the hosts wishing to go this route.
One might consider who the hunters are in such situations and their ability to be reasonable when dealing with the issue of IC hunts rather than just blaming everything upon the hosts when things break down. Behavior goes a long way into making the willingness to deal with such people impossible. No one wants to be name called, cursed, face racial slurs, or be accused of being unethical. I have tried in the past to make sportsmanlike behavior a huge factor in suitability to even participate in such events. Everyone knows that when objections have been raised over how they are being treated then this is the sort of abuse they have had to contend with.
I feel it is counterproductive to keep dwelling on the past, however. he did this, she said that, they wouldn't give me what I wanted, let's strip them!!! And everyone grabs a pitch fork and stands off.
I suggest a clean slate and let's just start from today. Be willing to give people a chance to let these things work. Discuss things rationally and politely among yourselves when you are having encounters. And don't insist upon getting your way with everything every time. Because frankly, those kinds of things don't even happen in your own dreams. Do not expect it here.