... Can I get a ruling on making sure my spouse conforms more to my whims?
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Well, you could. It's possible. Maybe more work than you would want to put into it, might ruin the balance of the relationship but it's possible.
Real to the Narutoverse though? I didn't see anyone in Kumo hating on Bee or wanting to turn him over to Akatsuki.
Until B got real close to the A and the two proved themsleves in the 3rd Great War, Bee wasn't exactly Mr. Popular in Kumogakure because the village had a history of being attacked by the beast itself.
In SL, the last time a village was attacked by a rogue beast, genuinely, was too long ago or out of my sight for me to recall. No SL RPer is going to turn in their own host unless it's very, very personal or he/she is character controlled into it. That makes it near impossible to get an insider turnover without using alts or very time-consuming spywork.
Should a wife have to put up with competition for the affections of her husband?
In certain cultures, certainly.
That is just it. If the host doesn't know who is after them and at what time or where they will be coming from how can they make these over the top procedures to follow in order to get to them?
Simple, you make a catch-all. Plus, except for a few surprises, I think we all by now are famaliar with the most avid biju hunters on site. If you can keep them off your neck the rest are manageable.
And why does everyone keep forgetting my proposition of allowing challenges to be declared right before the interaction?
Like, that right there by itself makes the challenge less of an announcement and more of a "officially, I'm challenging you with this and this many people, but we're already interacting so ball is in your court".